Negotiating the guest list can be one of the most stressful parts of planning any wedding. Typically the size of the guest list is a function of the overall budget. The higher the budget, then the easier to say “the more the merrier”. Other times the size of the guest list isn’t dictated by the budget as much as it represents the personal preference of the couple to have an intimate ceremony. Whether your special day is made more meaningful by being in the presence of only a few of your closest friend and family, or an extensive fellowship of family and community, deciding on the actual list can be a daunting task.
At Catering by Uptown we’ve advised hundreds of couples on this topic and that advice usually involves an Island. Destination weddings are tricky in some respects, but hardly ever in the guest list. You’re almost automatically inclined to only invite the people absolutely essential and closest to you because of the cost and effort to attend. So that’s where we encourage couples to start – If you were having a small ceremony on an island, who would be invited? Asking yourself this question usually helps to get to the heart of your “must haves” and you can work out from there.
Another question we hear a lot of is how to handle the “plus 1” situation. You’ve invited a single friend who responds to the R.S.V.P with an unexpected Plus 1. Our advice? Let it slide. The last thing you want to do is to be the person who denied their potential future wife or husband from attending your wedding.
There can be a lot of external opinions on the guest list, but our recommendation is to keep communicating with each other above all else. It’s your wedding after all, and ultimately you want to make sure that your special day is surrounded by love and respect. Whether you need help with guest list etiquette, or guidance on proper wording for invitations, our expert planning coordinators are always happy to help however we can.